Rescue-How I Loath the Words

Rescue, how I loath the words. Why do people feel thay need to rescue me? What am I portraying that someon needs to take care of me? Is it something I say?--Maybe I complain too much?--Something about my demeanur? Do I give mixed messages? What is it? What can I do about it? How can I better protray not needing rescuing? Is it really me? I don't know and I don't know what or how to do something about it? Do I communicate too much or expose myself to others too easily? It happens at work, my family, and my ex-husband. How can I better portray myself? Is it people's perception or lack of assertiveness? I desire for it to stop. Do I need to communicate to people who do it that I don't like it? What would I say? How would I say it? When would I say it?